{"id":6768,"date":"2011-11-28T09:45:51","date_gmt":"2011-11-28T14:45:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/chinese\/?p=6768"},"modified":"2011-11-28T09:45:53","modified_gmt":"2011-11-28T14:45:53","slug":"chinese-love-part-six","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/chinese\/chinese-love-part-six\/","title":{"rendered":"Chinese Love – Part Six"},"content":{"rendered":"

After the Three Letters and Six Etiquettes<\/a>, the bride’s dowry<\/a>, the installing of the bridal bed, the hair combing, and the groom’s struggle to fetch his own bride, it’s finally time for an actual wedding ceremony. The physical movement to the home of the groom’s family symbolizes the transfer of the bride from her family to that of her soon-to-be husband’s. Upon arriving at the groom’s house, even more fireworks are lit. The bride will be led across a red carpet, and she might have to step over a lit stove – a ritual to bring prosperity and keep evil at bay. Finally, with these rituals finished, the groom could finally lift the red scarf and see his bride. Of course, with so many different cultural groups in China, these customs could differ from one locale to another.<\/p>\n

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Traditional Chinese wedding ceremony.<\/p><\/div>\n

Next up is the actual wedding ceremony\u00a0<\/strong>(\u62dc\u5802 – b\u00e0i t\u00e1ng), the Chinese equivalent to wedding vows in the West, the couple will kowtow three times: to the heaven and earth, to the ancestral tablets, and their parents. Then, they bow to each other. In modern Chinese weddings, it is more common to either simply bow, or to forgo this party of the ceremony entirely.<\/p>\n

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All the tea in China...<\/p><\/div>\n

Then comes the all-important tea ceremony<\/strong> (\u5949\u8336 – f\u00e8ng ch\u00e1). Usually, the bride and groom will kneel and serve tea to their elders, starting with the groom’s parents. After serving the parents, they will serve the tea in order from the oldest to youngest. For example, the groom’s paternal grandparents<\/strong> (\u7956\u7236\u6bcd – z\u01d4 f\u00f9 m\u01d4) would be next, followed by his maternal grandparents<\/strong> (\u5916\u7956\u7236\u6bcd – w\u00e0i z\u01d4 f\u00f9 m\u01d4), then his aunts and uncles, and finally his siblings. In return, the newlyweds receive either red envelopes<\/strong> (\u7ea2\u5305 – h\u00f3ng b\u0101o) stuffed with money, or jewelry.<\/p>\n

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What an epic feast!<\/p><\/div>\n

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Roast pig - a common dish in Chinese wedding banquets.<\/p><\/div>\n

For the main event, a massive wedding banquet<\/strong> (\u7ed3\u5a5a\u5bb4\u5e2d – ji\u00e9 h\u016bn y\u00e0n x\u00ed) is held. This is also called “joyful wine<\/strong>” (\u559c\u9152 – x\u01d0 ji\u01d4). A huge feast is served, with upwards of 12 courses, along with plenty of Chinese spirits<\/strong> (\u767d\u9152 – b\u00e1i ji\u01d4). These days, wedding banquets are usually held in a restaurant or hotel. I’m not sure if this is a traditional Chinese wedding custom or not, but in the one wedding I’ve taken part in, the groom went around the room and did a “Cheers<\/strong>!” (\u5e72\u676f – g\u0101n b\u0113i – lit. “dry glass”) with every single person<\/em>. Needless to say, he was good and drunk by the end of it.<\/p>\n

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Looks like one too many rounds of \u5e72\u676f...<\/p><\/div>\n

Traditionally, the bride and groom would then be led to the bridal chamber<\/strong> (\u6d1e\u623f – d\u00f2ng f\u00e1ng), where the newlyweds will cross arms to drink wedding wine, and then exchange cups to gulp it down. Apparently chugging wine signifies the unity of the couple. The bridal chamber will remain opened on this day, and friends and relatives alike may enter to play tricks on the couple. This tradition is known as “disturbing the bridal chamber<\/strong>” (\u95f9\u6d1e\u623f – n\u00e0o d\u00f2ng f\u00e1ng). In ancient times, the bride and groom often would not meet until the night of the wedding, so these games encouraged family and friends from both sides to get together and have fun, allowing the shy newlyweds to act like husband and wife. Thankfully, for the men out there, modern weddings allow the newlyweds to spend the night in the hotel suite alone.<\/p>\n

The day after a traditional wedding, the bride would wake up early to honor her new family’s ancestors, at which time she would be formally introduced to all members of the family. This custom has, for the most part, disappeared from the Chinese weddings of today. Three days after the wedding, the couple will return to the bride’s home <\/strong>(\u4e09\u671d\u56de\u95e8 – s\u0101n ch\u00e1o hu\u00ed m\u00e9n), where she is greeted as a guest. As with most of the traditional wedding customs, this one has also faded a bit, as modern Chinese couples prefer a honeymoon to some exotic location like the Maldives<\/strong> (\u9a6c\u5c14\u4ee3\u592b – M\u01ce’\u011br d\u00e0i fu). After all of the work that goes into a Chinese wedding, I can’t say I blame them!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\"\"

After the Three Letters and Six Etiquettes, the bride’s dowry, the installing of the bridal bed, the hair combing, and the groom’s struggle to fetch his own bride, it’s finally time for an actual wedding ceremony. The physical movement to the home of the groom’s family symbolizes the transfer of the bride from her family…<\/p>\n

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