{"id":2054,"date":"2017-11-20T06:00:36","date_gmt":"2017-11-20T11:00:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/?p=2054"},"modified":"2019-01-06T05:31:04","modified_gmt":"2019-01-06T10:31:04","slug":"how-to-celebrate-a-jewish-wedding-part-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/how-to-celebrate-a-jewish-wedding-part-3\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Celebrate a Jewish Wedding (part 3)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_2101\" style=\"width: 595px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone post-item__attachment\"><a href=\"http:\/\/https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/tophos\/9683566862\/\" aria-label=\"9683566862 0aba9eac07 Z 350x232\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-2101\" class=\" wp-image-2101\"  alt=\"\" width=\"585\" height=\"388\" \/ src=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/34\/2017\/11\/9683566862_0aba9eac07_z-350x232.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/34\/2017\/11\/9683566862_0aba9eac07_z-350x232.jpg 350w, https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/34\/2017\/11\/9683566862_0aba9eac07_z.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 585px) 100vw, 585px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-2101\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Vanessa &amp; Paulo by Agence Tophos from Flickr.com is licensed under CC BY-SA 2.0<\/p><\/div>\n<p>In our last post about <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/how-to-celebrate-a-jewish-wedding-part-2\/\">How to Celebrate a Jewish Wedding<\/a>, we discussed the essentiality of the chuppah. Today we\u2019ll start to discuss everything that happens under it \u2013 the wedding ceremony.<\/p>\n<p>There used to be two different ceremonies (\u05d8\u05b0\u05e7\u05b8\u05e1\u05c5\u05d9\u05dd): betrothal (\u05e7\u05c5\u05d9\u05d3\u05d5\u05bc\u05e9\u05c1\u05c5\u05d9\u05df) and wedding (\u05e0\u05c5\u05d9\u05e9\u05c2\u05d5\u05bc\u05d0\u05c5\u05d9\u05df). In the past, when a couple got engaged they celebrated it with a short ceremony (\u05d8\u05b6\u05e7\u05b6\u05e1) to announce their union. They let the community know they are not singles anymore and that they chose each other. After the announcement they took the time to prepare them self for marriage life: they found a place to live in, saved money, and got ready to become a family. Only then they celebrated their marriage with a wedding ceremony.<\/p>\n<p>The wedding ceremony (\u05d8\u05b6\u05e7\u05b6\u05e1 \u05d4\u05b7\u05e0\u05c5\u05bc\u05d9\u05e9\u05c2\u05d5\u05bc\u05d0\u05c5\u05d9\u05df) of today is composed of these two different sections. Nowadays, these two ceremonies are combined into one ceremony celebrated at one evening. The first section of the \u05d7\u05d5\u05bc\u05e4\u05bc\u05b8\u05d4 ceremony is the betrothal. The modern Hebrew word for engagement is \u05d0\u05c5\u05d9\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05e1\u05c5\u05d9\u05df, and from the same root derive the words fianc\u00e9 \u2013 \u05d0\u05b8\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05e1, and fianc\u00e9e \u2013 \u05d0\u05b2\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05e1\u05b8\u05d4. A more archaic word for engagement was prevailed during the Mishnah period ( 1<sup>st<\/sup> century-7<sup>th<\/sup> century AD). Back then the word for engagement was \u05e7\u05c5\u05d9\u05d3\u05d5\u05bc\u05e9\u05c1\u05c5\u05d9\u05df (sanctification), because a fianc\u00e9e was a women who had been sanctified (\u05de\u05b0\u05e7\u05d5\u05bc\u05d3\u05b6\u05e9\u05b6\u05c1\u05ea) to her fianc\u00e9. When a couple decided to get engaged, they declared it by sanctifying the woman to the man, so other will know this women is with that man. The way to sanctify the woman was by a ring and it required two witnesses for approval.<\/p>\n<p>The engagement sanctification of old times is the first part of the wedding ceremony of our modern times. Like every happy Jewish occasion, it begins with a blessing over the wine:<\/p>\n<p>\u05d1\u05b8\u05bc\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05da\u05b0 \u05d0\u05b7\u05ea\u05b8\u05bc\u05d4 \u05d0\u05b2\u05d3\u05b9\u05e0\u05b8\u05d9 \u05d0\u05b1\u05dc\u05b9\u05d4\u05b5\u05d9\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05de\u05b6\u05dc\u05b6\u05da\u05b0 \u05d4\u05b8\u05e2\u05d5\u05b9\u05dc\u05b8\u05dd \u05d1\u05bc\u05d5\u05b9\u05e8\u05b5\u05d0 \u05e4\u05b0\u05bc\u05e8\u05b4\u05d9 \u05d4\u05b7\u05d2\u05b8\u05bc\u05e4\u05b6\u05df<\/p>\n<p>[Blessed are You our God, sovereign of the universe, creator of the vine]<\/p>\n<p>Listen to the blessing over the wine in this video:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Kiddush - Blessing over the wine\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GH0ILq9vKao?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Right after the blessing over the wine, without a break,\u00a0 the rabbi continues to the engagement blessing (\u05d1\u05b4\u05bc\u05e8\u05b0\u05db\u05b7\u05bc\u05ea \u05d0\u05b5\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05e1\u05b4\u05d9\u05df):<\/p>\n<p>\u05d1\u05b8\u05bc\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05da\u05b0 \u05d0\u05b7\u05ea\u05b8\u05bc\u05d4 \u05d0\u05b2\u05d3\u05b9\u05e0\u05b8\u05d9 \u05d0\u05b1\u05dc\u05b9\u05d4\u05b5\u05d9\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05de\u05b6\u05dc\u05b6\u05da\u05b0 \u05d4\u05b8\u05e2\u05d5\u05b9\u05dc\u05b8\u05dd,<\/p>\n<p>\u05d0\u05b2\u05e9\u05b6\u05c1\u05e8 \u05e7\u05b4\u05d3\u05b0\u05bc\u05e9\u05b8\u05c1\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05d1\u05b0\u05bc\u05de\u05b4\u05e6\u05b0\u05d5\u05b9\u05ea\u05b8\u05d9\u05d5 \u05d5\u05b0\u05e6\u05b4\u05d5\u05b8\u05bc\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05e2\u05b7\u05dc \u05d4\u05b8\u05e2\u05b2\u05e8\u05b8\u05d9\u05d5\u05b9\u05ea,<\/p>\n<p>\u05d5\u05b0\u05d0\u05b8\u05e1\u05b7\u05e8 \u05dc\u05b8\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05d0\u05b6\u05ea \u05d4\u05b8\u05d0\u05b2\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05e1\u05d5\u05b9\u05ea,<\/p>\n<p>\u05d5\u05b0\u05d4\u05b4\u05ea\u05b4\u05bc\u05d9\u05e8 \u05dc\u05b8\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05d0\u05b6\u05ea \u05d4\u05b7\u05e0\u05b0\u05bc\u05e9\u05c2\u05d5\u05bc\u05d0\u05d5\u05b9\u05ea \u05dc\u05b8\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05e2\u05b7\u05dc \u05d9\u05b0\u05d3\u05b5\u05d9 \u05d7\u05bb\u05e4\u05b8\u05bc\u05d4 \u05d5\u05b0\u05e7\u05b4\u05d3\u05bc\u05d5\u05bc\u05e9\u05b4\u05c1\u05d9\u05df,<\/p>\n<p>\u05d1\u05b8\u05bc\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05da\u05b0 \u05d0\u05b7\u05ea\u05b8\u05bc\u05d4 \u05d0\u05b2\u05d3\u05b9\u05e0\u05b8\u05d9 \u05de\u05b0\u05e7\u05b7\u05d3\u05b5\u05bc\u05e9\u05c1 \u05e2\u05b7\u05de\u05bc\u05d5\u05b9 \u05d9\u05b4\u05e9\u05b0\u05c2\u05e8\u05b8\u05d0\u05b5\u05dc \u05e2\u05b7\u05dc \u05d9\u05b0\u05d3\u05b5\u05d9 \u05d7\u05bb\u05e4\u05b8\u05bc\u05d4 \u05d5\u05b0\u05e7\u05b4\u05d3\u05bc\u05d5\u05bc\u05e9\u05b4\u05c1\u05d9\u05df.<\/p>\n<p>In which we bless our God, sovereign of the universe, who sanctified us with his commandment; who prohibited the Jew from being with women other than one\u2019s wife, and allowed the Jew to be with one\u2019s wife by marriage. In the last line we bless again our God who gave His people the right to get engaged and married.<\/p>\n<p>In this video, from a real wedding, the rabbi is blessing over the wine and the engagement blessing:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"\u05d4\u05e8\u05d1 \u05e9\u05dc\u05d5\u05dd \u05d4\u05dc\u05d5\u05d9 - \u05d1\u05e8\u05db\u05d5\u05ea \u05d4\u05d0\u05d9\u05e8\u05d5\u05e1\u05d9\u05df\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VBmzZa-Msqk?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>After the blessing both the groom and the bride need to drink from the wine. First the rabbi gives the full glass of wine to the groom. The blessed glass of wine is always full to the edge, no matter if it\u2019s a Saturday blessed wine or a wedding blessed wine. To respect the blessing we pour the glass to the brim, and fortunately it leaves enough wine for everyone to drink at the end of the wedding ceremony (to read more about this custom check the first part of <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/how-to-celebrate-a-jewish-wedding-part-1\/\">How to Celebrate a Jewish Wedding<\/a>). The groom drinks from the glass and returns it to the rabbi. Then it&#8217;s the turn of the bride to drink, but the bride and groom aren\u2019t married yet. The bride is still under the responsibility of her mother, so the rabbi gives the glass of wine to the bride&#8217;s mother, and she brings the glass closer to the mouth of her daughter to sip from it.<\/p>\n<p>Then the rabbi asks for the ring. The ring&#8217;s holder \u2013 it can be the groom, his father, his best man, the bride\u2019s nephew, etc \u2013 gives the ring to the rabbi. The rabbi asks the groom if he bought the ring with his own money, and the groom answers yes. Then the rabbi presents the ring to the witnesses, and ask them if the ring worth a Pruta. Pruta is an archaic unit of 0.025 gram silver, and this is the minimum amount by which a woman can be sanctified. Only after they answer yes, the rabbi hands the ring to the groom. The bride stretches forward her index finger, and the groom recites<strong>:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u05d4\u05b2\u05e8\u05b5\u05d9 \u05d0\u05b7\u05ea\u05b0\u05bc \u05de\u05b0\u05e7\u05bb\u05d3\u05b6\u05bc\u05e9\u05b6\u05c1\u05ea \u05dc\u05b4\u05d9 \u05d1\u05b0\u05bc\u05d8\u05b7\u05d1\u05b7\u05bc\u05e2\u05b7\u05ea \u05d6\u05d5\u05b9 \u05db\u05b0\u05bc\u05d3\u05b7\u05ea \u05de\u05e9\u05b6\u05c1\u05d4 \u05d5\u05b0\u05d9\u05b4\u05e9\u05b0\u05c2\u05e8\u05b8\u05d0\u05b5\u05dc<\/p>\n<p>[Here you are sanctified to me with this ring according to Moses and Israel\u2019s religion]<\/p>\n<p>The groom puts the ring on his bride finger, and the rabbi repeats:<\/p>\n<p>\u05de\u05b0\u05e7\u05bb\u05d3\u05b6\u05bc\u05e9\u05b6\u05c1\u05ea \u05de\u05b0\u05e7\u05bb\u05d3\u05b6\u05bc\u05e9\u05b6\u05c1\u05ea \u05de\u05b0\u05e7\u05bb\u05d3\u05b6\u05bc\u05e9\u05b6\u05c1\u05ea<\/p>\n<p>[Sanctified sanctified sanctified]<\/p>\n<p>After the rabbi repeats the word sanctifies three times, the groom and bride are engaged to each other. The crowed usually applauds at that point, but the ceremony continues with the second section: the wedding ceremony. We&#8217;ll talk all about the wedding ceremony in our next post on how to celebrate a Jewish wedding.<\/p>\n<p>In the next video is only the first section of the wedding ceremony \u2013 \u05d8\u05b6\u05e7\u05b6\u05e1 \u05d4\u05b7\u05e7\u05c5\u05bc\u05d9\u05d3\u05d5\u05bc\u05e9\u05c1\u05c5\u05d9\u05df . This video, from a real wedding, includes the first part of the wedding ceremony \u2013 the betrothal ceremony:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Traditional Jewish wedding ceremony\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GjdffoHqJ1M?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><u>Text vocabulary<\/u><\/p>\n<p>Bride = \u05db\u05bc\u05b7\u05dc\u05bc\u05b8\u05d4<\/p>\n<p>Groom = \u05d7\u05b8\u05ea\u05b8\u05df<\/p>\n<p>Ceremony = \u05d8\u05b6\u05e7\u05b6\u05e1<\/p>\n<p>Ceremonies = \u05d8\u05b0\u05e7\u05b8\u05e1\u05c5\u05d9\u05dd<\/p>\n<p>Wedding ceremony = \u05d8\u05b6\u05e7\u05b6\u05e1 \u05d4\u05b7\u05e0\u05c5\u05bc\u05d9\u05e9\u05c2\u05d5\u05bc\u05d0\u05c5\u05d9\u05df<\/p>\n<p>Betrothal ceremony =\u05d8\u05b6\u05e7\u05b6\u05e1 \u05d4\u05b7\u05e7\u05c5\u05d9\u05d3\u05d5\u05bc\u05e9\u05c1\u05c5\u05d9\u05df<\/p>\n<p>Engagement blessing = \u05d1\u05b4\u05bc\u05e8\u05b0\u05db\u05b7\u05bc\u05ea \u05d0\u05b5\u05e8\u05d5\u05bc\u05e1\u05b4\u05d9\u05df<\/p>\n<p>Wine = \u05d9\u05b7\u05d9\u05b4\u05df<\/p>\n<p>Ring = \u05d8\u05b7\u05d1\u05bc\u05b7\u05e2\u05b7\u05ea<\/p>\n<p>Rabbi = \u05e8\u05b7\u05d1<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Related posts:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/how-to-celebrate-a-jewish-wedding-part-1\/\">How to Celebrate a Jewish Wedding (part 1)<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/how-to-celebrate-a-jewish-wedding-part-2\/\">How to Celebrate a Jewish Wedding (part 2)<\/a><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff\"><strong>Keep Calm and Learn Hebrew<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<hr \/>\n<hr \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<img width=\"350\" height=\"232\" src=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/34\/2017\/11\/9683566862_0aba9eac07_z-350x232.jpg\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/34\/2017\/11\/9683566862_0aba9eac07_z-350x232.jpg 350w, https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/hebrew\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/34\/2017\/11\/9683566862_0aba9eac07_z.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 350px) 100vw, 350px\" \/><p>In our last post about How to Celebrate a Jewish Wedding, we discussed the essentiality of the chuppah. Today we\u2019ll start to discuss everything that happens under it \u2013 the wedding ceremony. There used to be two different ceremonies (\u05d8\u05b0\u05e7\u05b8\u05e1\u05c5\u05d9\u05dd): betrothal (\u05e7\u05c5\u05d9\u05d3\u05d5\u05bc\u05e9\u05c1\u05c5\u05d9\u05df) and wedding (\u05e0\u05c5\u05d9\u05e9\u05c2\u05d5\u05bc\u05d0\u05c5\u05d9\u05df). 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