{"id":6764,"date":"2020-11-23T18:05:17","date_gmt":"2020-11-23T23:05:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/korean\/?p=6764"},"modified":"2020-11-21T11:08:22","modified_gmt":"2020-11-21T16:08:22","slug":"korean-social-norms-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/korean\/korean-social-norms-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Korean Social Norms (Part 1)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Every country has their own social norms, and that certainly includes Korea. Korean culture is modernized, but many social norms are still based on <\/span>\uc720\uad50\uc0ac\uc0c1 (you-kyo-sah-sang:<\/b> Confucianism), which emphasizes harmonious relations in social groups.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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I have been wanting to talk about Korean social norms, but I didn\u2019t want to misguide readers by over-generalizing some parts of Korean culture. After giving this much thought, I have selected several Korean social norms that you might come across at work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Your age will set your hierarchical rank in any social environment.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    Most Koreans would like to set hierarchical ranks among social group members by certain measures, such as age. I believe this <\/span>\uacbd\ud5a5 (kyung-hyang<\/b>: tendency) is coming from Confucianism, which reinforces the importance of respecting elders. However, your job titles probably have more priority at work. If your <\/span>\uc0c1\uc0ac (sang-sah:<\/b> a superior) is younger than you, you might want to be careful how you talk to him\/her, due to the use of\u00a0 <\/span>\uc874\ub313\ub9d0 (jon-dat-mahl<\/b>: the honorific form of Korean). It depends upon your superior\u2019s personality whether they are comfortable with you using \uc874\ub313\ub9d0 or not, but I advise you to use \uc874\ub313\ub9d0 at work anyway. You could talk to your\u00a0 \uc0c1\uc0ac without using \uc874\ub313\ub9d0 at <\/span>\uc0ac\uc11d (sah-suk<\/b>: in a private\/unofficial).<\/span><\/p>\n

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    \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 2. Be ready to be asked personal questions.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    Koreans might ask you many personal questions <\/span>\ucd08\uba74\uc5d0 (cho-myeon-eh:<\/b> for the first time). Don\u2019t be surprised when you are asked about your neighborhood, your age, your blood type, your job title, even your parents\u2019 job. You never know what might come up. Some Koreans ask you these personal questions in a naive manner in order to get to know you. I believe most Koreans are trying to find commonality between the two of you to build a bond. It is understandable if you don\u2019t want to answer these questions as long as you politely refuse.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03. Being a mind reader is an essential social tool in Korean society.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    When you look up a dictionary, <\/span>\ub208\uce58 (noon-chi) <\/b>is defined as wits or a sense, which doesn\u2019t really translate the word. My definition of \ub208\uce58 is a social ability or a social skill to read someone\u2019s state of mind by observing someone\u2019s non-verbal languages, such as body language or voice tone. Or \ub208\uce58 can be translated as a social cue to determine what is going on around you, especially when people don\u2019t tell you what is really going on.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    \ub208\uce58<\/span> can be general behavioral guidelines for Koreans. Let\u2019s say your daughter won the spelling bee competition and you want to <\/span>\uce7c\ud1f4\uadfc (kahl-tea-gun:<\/b> going home on time after work) to celebrate your daughter\u2019s victory. However, there is a rumor that some people would be laid off soon. Your superior seems to be unhappy all day long and even he is unusually working late. Oddly, others are working late as well. In this case, you unwillingly decided to stay late at least until your boss goes home, because you don\u2019t want your boss think that you are a sloppy worker. (I remind you that working late is not uncommon and leaving work on time is not often considered ideal in some Korean companies.) In this case, you practice \ub208\uce58 for the sake of your job security. In other words, \ub208\uce58is understood to be a type of social effort to avoid standing out among group members. \ub208\uce58 definitely requires a certain level of social EQ.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    \u00a0 \u00a04. Look at the middle of the forehead.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    When you talk to Koreans, especially if you talk to elders, avoid direct eye contact. In Western culture, people look at each other\u2019s eyes while they talk. In Korea, you want to avoid this because some Koreans might think you are being confrontational if you directly look into their eyes while you talk. Some would advise you to look at the listener\u2019s <\/span>\ubbf8\uac04 (mi-gahn: <\/b>middle of the forehead), instead of eyes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    \u00a0 \u00a05. Be patient when you converse with Koreans.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    You need to listen to almost everything until a Korean speaker finishes his sentences because the verb in Korean sentences is at the end. The other reason that you need to wait is that some Koreans might <\/span>\ub3cc\ub824 \ub9d0\ud558\ub2e4 (dol-rye-mahl-hah-dah<\/b>: mince one\u2019s words) when they are given simple yes or no questions. Some Koreans might not be comfortable immediately saying \u201cNo\u201d. When they say no, they might think it is rude to forcefully say no or they might hurt your feelings. If you want clear communication with Koreans, don\u2019t cut off someone because the real meaning can be waiting for you\u00a0 with the final word.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    What did you think about Korean Social norms? I will discuss more Korean social norms in part 2. Stay tuned!<\/p>\n

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    Every country has their own social norms, and that certainly includes Korea. Korean culture is modernized, but many social norms are still based on \uc720\uad50\uc0ac\uc0c1 (you-kyo-sah-sang: Confucianism), which emphasizes harmonious relations in social groups.\u00a0   I have been wanting to talk about Korean social norms, but I didn\u2019t want to misguide readers by over-generalizing some…<\/p>\n

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