{"id":2358,"date":"2014-08-13T07:15:20","date_gmt":"2014-08-13T11:15:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/language-news\/?p=2358"},"modified":"2020-10-02T13:17:18","modified_gmt":"2020-10-02T17:17:18","slug":"youre-dead-afraid-of-speaking-in-a-foreign-language-heres-how-you-can-fix-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.transparent.com\/language-news\/2014\/08\/13\/youre-dead-afraid-of-speaking-in-a-foreign-language-heres-how-you-can-fix-it\/","title":{"rendered":"You\u2019re Dead Afraid of Speaking in a Foreign Language: Here\u2019s How You Can Fix It"},"content":{"rendered":"

Guest Post By Sam Gendreau<\/p>\n

\u201cMan often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2015 Mahatma Gandhi<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If I could get a penny for every language learner that has spent years learning a foreign language without ever having a conversation with a native speaker, chances are I\u2019d be millionaire. There\u2019s even a term for it: xenoglossophobia. Yeah, that one. In comprehensible language, it\u2019s called \u201cforeign language anxiety<\/a>,\u201d and it happens so much that speaking is often cited as the most anxiety provoking of foreign language activities. But I bet you knew that.<\/p>\n

In fact, very few are the grown adults who can just learn a few sentences in a foreign language and start chatting up the natives without any fear of sounding ridiculous or making dreadful grammatical mistakes. Indeed, most of us seem to be hard-wired to have a desire to achieve perfection before ever opening our mouth in a foreign language. It happens to experienced language learners too.<\/p>\n

Of course that\u2019s a classic example of a “chicken-and-egg problem”: a skill (i.e. speaking in a foreign language) can only be developed through practice (i.e. speaking). If you\u2019re still hanging to your pipe dream of speaking perfect Chinese without ever speaking broken Chinese first, I\u2019m sorry to have to steal away your rose-colored glasses, but that\u2019s not going to happen. So what\u2019s the fix?<\/p>\n

Three Pillars to Successful Language Learning<\/strong><\/p>\n

I have always thought of success in foreign language acquisition as being built on top of three pillars, each one shouldering an approximate equal part of the weight of the fortress built upon it.<\/p>\n

These three pillars, in my mind, would be confidence, attitude, and motivation<\/strong>. These qualities will get you much farther than any special memory tricks, textbook, or other gimmicks. They feed one into another and act as a springboard to successful foreign language acquisition. Used in tandem with the right habits and learning strategies, they will allow you to quickly build up your language learning fortress and become a capable and successful language learner.<\/p>\n

That being said, a lot of people fail to properly recognize the importance that confidence has to the successful acquisition of a foreign language. Others simply don\u2019t know how to go about boosting it. So what\u2019s the solution?<\/p>\n

Develop Your Confidence<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fear of failure, of being ridiculed, of falling short of expectations; these are things we all face to some degree. The question is: how can you overcome these fears? Here are five ways to get yourself started:<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0Get to know yourself<\/strong>: In order to develop your confidence in speaking in your target language, you\u2019ll first need to get to know yourself. If you don\u2019t know what the problem is, it\u2019ll be hard to find a solution. Get a pen and a paper, and write down what springs to your mind when looking at the following questions: What exactly are you afraid of? Why do you think you are afraid of this? How do you think you could overcome your fear? What is the worst thing that could happen if you overcame your fear and started speaking in your target language? What about the best thing that could happen? Before you keep on reading, I really want you to take 1 minute and write down your answers to those questions.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0Get prepared<\/strong>: Think about it: what are the topics of conversation that are highly likely to come up in conversations with native speakers? The truth is, the same small number of topics will come over and over again, and it\u2019s easy to prepare for them. Having an arsenal of phrases guaranteed to spark small talk can really help to boost your confidence in engaging native speakers in their language. From my own experience, people will invariably ask things such as why you\u2019re learning their language<\/strong> and how long you\u2019ve been doing it for<\/strong>. Get ready to answer these questions by memorizing a few key words and sentences. Practice them out loud to yourself and, if possible, with a tutor or a native friend.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0Set small goals and achieve them: <\/strong>If you\u2019re dead afraid of speaking to natives in your target language, chances are you won\u2019t start having long conversations tomorrow just because I tell you it\u2019s important. But hey, how about starting with very small goals, such as saying \u201chi\u201d and \u201chow are you\u201d in your target language when meeting natives, just to test the ground? Then you\u2019ll be free to switch back to English if you feel like it. By starting small and progressively building up on your progress, you\u2019ll develop confidence and a desire to open more to others. Plus, you\u2019re likely to get a lot of positive feedback and you\u2019ll see that people show curiosity for your interest in their language.<\/p>\n

4. Act positive: <\/strong>When thinking about a situation, you automatically make \u201cmovies\u201d in your mind that represent the situation. These movies completely determine how you feel about the situation.<\/em> What you have to do is to make a conscious effort to make these movies as positive as possible. Instead of imagining failure or rejection, imagine yourself confidently speaking to natives with your newly acquired Spanish skills, for example, making new friends and having a good time.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0Smile to others and laugh at yourself: <\/strong>Finally, remember to smile and laugh at yourself. You made a mistake? It\u2019s not the end of the world! Keep your chin up and have a good laugh. Smile to people and show genuine interest in them and in their culture. And if you want to ease the mood, try learning a couple of funny jokes in your target language.As you meet natives and the opportunity arises, drop a few funny lines and see how people react!Jokes are a great social lubricant and when you\u2019ll see people laugh at the ones you throw at them, your confidence is sure to grow and you\u2019ll be sure to have a good time, too.<\/p>\n

If All Else Fails, Just Remember: The Sky is Not Going to Fall<\/strong><\/p>\n

Learning a language is all about expanding your comfort zone. In fact, I would go as far as to say that the key to living a fulfilling life is by constantly stepping outside of your comfort zone.<\/p>\n

Leave your doubts behind in your comfort zone.Don\u2019t tell yourself \u201cI will never meet any native speakers until I\u2019m absolutely sure that I won\u2019t make any mistakes when speaking their language, otherwise I surely will die in embarrassment.\u201d Really? Think about this: whatever you do, the sky is not going to fall and no, people are not going to roll on the floor and start laughing at you because you butchered their language\u2019s grammar. Just stay relaxed, keep an open mind, and show curiosity. The rest will follow.<\/p>\n

Conclusion<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you afraid of speaking in a foreign language? We all are to some extent. But by making conscious efforts to develop your confidence and step out of your comfort zone, you\u2019ll start to see amazing change happen.<\/p>\n

What do you think? Have you tried any of the tips outlined above? Do you have a solution for getting around (or over) foreign language anxiety? Tell us your stories in the comments section below.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\"\"

Guest Post By Sam Gendreau \u201cMan often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it…<\/p>\n

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